We all go through moments in life where we feel stuck or uncertain about what comes next. An awkward sense of free-floating aimlessly between who you one were and who you’re becoming, with no clear path forward. It’s common to feel this way, and if you’re in one of these “blah” phases right now, it’s important to recognize that it’s an opportunity for growth, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the moment.
When we feel lost or unsure about the next steps in life, it’s often because our old values and goals no longer fit the person we’ve become. The first thing to do in this situation is to take a step back and identify what your past values were. Ask yourself: What have I cared about up to this point? Maybe you’ve been focused on career advancement, relationships, or personal achievement. These values may have served you well in the past, but if you’re feeling “blah” now, it could be that they no longer align with who you are today.
Once you’ve reflected on your past values, the next step is to consider what your new set of values might be. This is where you’ll begin to shift from feeling lost to gaining clarity. What’s important to you now? For example, you maybe you realize that after years of prioritizing work and success, you want to put more emphasis on leisure, personal time, and relaxation. Maybe you’ve discovered that you now value work/life balance more than hustle, or that you want to prioritize experiences over accomplishments.
Once you’ve identified the values that resonate with you today, it’s time to create actionable steps for change. Let’s say you’ve decided that you want to value leisure more moving forward. What does that look like in your life? You could start by setting boundaries around your work hours, and give yourself specific times each day to unwind without guilt. You can decided on scheduling a regular activity that brings you joy, like a weekly yoga class, a hobby you’ve neglected, or even just time for a walk in nature. Or maybe plan small vacations or weekend getaways to create space for relaxation and mental refreshment. Creating actionable steps will help reinforce your new value system and make an impact on how you feel about your life.
Of course, identifying your values and taking steps toward change isn’t always as straightforward as it seems. Sometimes we get stuck in old patterns or struggle to see what’s holding us back from moving forward. If you find yourself feeling blocked or weighed down by something from your past, it may be time to talk to a therapist. A therapist can help you work through unresolved issues that might be keeping you tethered to your old values or preventing you from embracing the future.
On the other hand, if you feel clear about your past but unsure about the future, a life coach might be exactly what you need. Life coaches can offer guidance and strategies to help you make actionable changes based on the values you want to adopt. They help you define what the next chapter looks like and how to move toward it with intention and confidence.
Whether you’re reflecting on past values, defining new ones, or taking steps to live by those values, the most important thing to remember is that feeling “blah” isn’t permanent. It’s a signal from within that it’s time to reassess and realign with what truly matters to you. Don’t rush the process. Instead, see this phase as an opportunity to create the next version of yourself, one that feels authentic and fulfilling.
So if you’re feeling lost or unsure about the next phase in your life, give yourself permission to explore, reflect, and realign. Identify what matters to you now, create space for those values to grow, and seek help if you need guidance along the way. Life is full of transitions, and every “blah” moment is just a bridge to something more meaningful.
Stay Radiant <3