One of the most challenging hurdles we all have to overcome from time to time is someone we care about hurting our feelings. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or family member, feeling hurt by someone we genuinely liked can leave us feeling confused. When it happens, it’s really important to acknowledge your feelings, and more importantly, give yourself time to process and move on. Lets explore some practical and realistic ways to reset after someone hurts your feelings while maintaining warmth and compassion towards yourself.

First of all, lets always acknowledge that your feelings are valid (perspective wise), and the only way to acknowledge your real feelings are to reflect on what they are exactly. You have the right to feel hurt, disappointed, or rejected when someone you cared about caused you pain, but it’s your responsibility to make sure that your feelings don’t influence negative behaviors. Walk yourself through the hurtful situation and recall your physical and emotional reactions. It could help to listen to vibrational frequencies to keep you grounded while you reflect and re-experience the emotions. Deep reflection will further your understanding of the situation and help you identify how to react in a healthier way the next time. Avoid judging yourself when you do this, Healing begins with acknowledging what you really felt in the moment and why.

Healing from hurt feelings is not a linear process, and you may have ups and downs along the way. It really sucks when someone doesn’t live up to your expectations of being a safe space, but it also welcomes self-reflection on why you felt that they were a safe space in the first place. Reach out to your close friends, family, or a therapist to share your feelings. Talking about what happened will help you process your emotions and gain new perspectives. Perspective helps you move differently the next time you’re hurt, and sharing your perspectives with supportive people can provide comfort and understanding to remind you that you’re not alone… you’re not stupid… and you’re not a loser.

It’s natural to replay the hurtful incident in your mind repeatedly. Each time it comes up in your mind, challenge your negative thoughts about the situation and remind yourself that your worth isn’t defined by someone else’s actions. Focus on your positive qualities and the love and support that you do have from other people. Ultimately, it’s important to identify your personal red flags and patterns to help you make healthier choices and who you trust to build future relationships. Painful experiences can be catalysts for personal growth and character development (trust me, I’m tired of growing and personally developing too LOL).

Stay Radiant <3